Friday, July 20, 2012

IMPROV


Hi guys. I’m back, does anybody care? I know I’m a slacker. I been hiding out for about two weeks. Not exactly sure what my problem is. I’m not confident I’m ready to be back and thrill you with my excellent stories and eloquent prose, but sometimes you gotta improvise.




Someone sent me this picture early this morning via text message. That’s a hermit crab without a shell. So, he’s living in a glass jar. I hope he knows not to throw any stones. Sometimes you just gotta improvise.

Some days life is like that. Everything familiar seems to have disappeared and you’re not sure how to find your way home. Sometimes you might want to scream ‘Oh, you don’t know the shape I’m in’. Then, somebody calls you up, sends you a text, email, or the best of all, a letter or package in the ‘old-fashioned, real mail’, and ‘out of the blue’, you start remembering how to do life.

I know I promised to post my ‘100 people you need to meet before you die’ list, on Fridays, but for today, this is the best improv I can come up with. Stop by next week and I’ll tell you about another one of my 100, a REAL cowboy, my friend Tom Robinson. Until then, when life gets you down, try to remember to hold your breath, kick for the surface, listen for the phone, and check your mail.

Saturday, July 7, 2012

100 People - Polish Uncles

Yesterday was a little stressful and I never got this post up even though I wrote it Thursday night.sorry about that. Anyway continuing on in my 100 People You Want to Meet Before You Die (Fridays special selection) meet my Uncles on my mother's side of the family. My Polish Uncles.



100 People – The Uncles (The Polish Uncles)

Yesterday I read a post about baseball and was immediately reminded of some sweet childhood memories. I had promised over a week ago to tell a story about my Uncle Tony, and I will, but first I want to talk about my uncles in general. They definitely fall under my topic of 100 People You Want to Meet Before You Die.

First my mother’s brothers. Momma came from a family of ten children. Three girls and seven boys. One of her brothers died young, so I never met him, but the other six where some interesting characters. They had some unusual nicknames. There was my Uncle Bunny (nickname), Uncle Bruno (no nickname), Uncle Tony (no nickname), Uncle Mooch (nickname), Uncle Smokey (nickname), and Uncle Lefty (nickname). I knew they were all big ball players on the city leagues in Chicago, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that a cousin explained this is where the nicknames came from. Some are obvious as to how they might pertain to playing ball, like Mooch and Lefty, maybe even Smokey but I have to admit Uncle Bunny’s nickname although really cute, eludes me as to how this might relate to baseball, let alone a grown man.

By day, Uncle Bunny was a bus driver for the Chicago Transit Authority (CTA) and a ‘bookie’ on the side. More than once I remember Daddy having to go and get Uncle Bunny out of jail for making book.

Uncle Tony and Uncle Mooch were by two bachelor uncles. They lived with my grandmother until the day she died. They took good care of her too. Grandma never spoke word of English, and since I never learned much Polish we didn’t have very in depth conversations. Of course, she died when I was 5, so we probably weren’t going to have a lot of deep things to say in any language. I did understand “I love you’. I have some great stories about Uncle Tony and he’ll get his own post in a week or so. The most vivid thing I remember about my Uncle Mooch was that he was very handsome and he smoked the stinkiest cigars you can ever imagine.

Uncle Smokey was a milkman, as in he delivered milk to your door every day. When I was real little, he was our milkman. He managed to have our delivery later in the morning, on his route, and Momma would always have the coffee on so he could stop in and visit. I wonder what the neighbors thought about that. I wonder if they all knew he was her brother.

Uncle Lefty was my Momma’s baby brother and he was a whole lot of fun. His wife, my Aunt Gene was and still is beautiful, she was also fun. She is my last surviving Aunt or Uncle on either side of the family. They had two boys, my cousin Danny being only a few months younger than me. dated one of my girlfriends for a while and we sure did have a good time. Today he is married to a wonderful woman Jurate, one of my favorite cousin-in-laws.

My Uncle Bruno was quite a bit older than Momma. I think he was actually the oldest in the family and mostly I remember him as being very quite. But his wife, my Aunt Mary was something else again. They only lived a few block from us and going over to their place was always an adventure.

Family gatherings with this clan where normally a riotous affair. There was generally a poker game going on somewhere and the cousins ranging in ages from toddlers to teenagers, where running all over the place. The food was incredible and plentiful. Tradition was that we always got together for Christmas Eve, at my grandmothers place. Once Babcia (Grandma in Polish) died, the Christmas Eve celebration moved to our house.

Man I miss those people. I am grateful for the experience of growing up in this amazing stew of ethnicity. I wish I had appreciated the importance of learning another language when I was younger. Of course, I’m not exactly sure how I would use Polish in my present life, but ‘ya never know’.

I have three other Uncles from Daddy’s side of the family and one Great Uncle, Uncle Bill, but he will get his own post and I’ll save the more reserved English Uncles for another time as well.

Dunce that I can be, I almost forgot my two Uncle-in-laws, my mother's sisters husbands (are you still with me). My Uncle Matt, married to my Aunt Irene and my Uncle Benny, married to my Aunt Clara.

Uncle Matt was an early entrepreneur, he dabbled in Real Estate and they had a 'Custard Stand' (soft serve ice cream, burgers,dogs and the like) on the corner of their property. I used to love to go there to work/visit. Uncle Matt also sold Grave Stones on the side. Yeah you heard me right. They had a display of various styles and different types of granite in their backyard. A little creepy maybe, but I grew up thinking it was normal.

Uncle Benny was a real hoot. I remember when my Cousin Jimi grew his hair long and Uncle Benny was so mortified, one Sunday afternoon Jimi fell asleep on the couch and Uncle Benny went at one side of his head with the kitchen shears. When Jimi woke up he was mad, but in defiance he walked around for months with his 'Dad's haircut'. Uncle Benny was a chauffeur for the big wigs at General Electric. Another unusual occupation that just seemed normal to me.

When Uncle Benny died I was a young adult. I remember going to the wake and a large Polish Funeral Home. There were several people 'laid out' and they had a directory in the entryway. That was the first time I learned that Uncle Benny's 'real' first name was Boleslaw (after a Polish King) and not Benny.

OK, now I'm done.


Thursday, July 5, 2012

Insecure Writers Support Group


Today is INSECURE WRITERS SUPPORT GROUP. Well, actually yesterday was, but we were given the option to post on either Tuesday or Thursday because of the Holiday. I figured I would post on Wednesday anyway, but then a really big storm blew through and the power went out. It stayed out for several hours and so…I decided to go over to the West End with family and friends to a local beach bar to watch the fireworks, even though they weren’t going to start for a few hours. Anyway…here it is Thursday.

INSCRITIES, oh yeah, I got ‘em, but for some silly reason today it isn’t so bad. I have this theory that if you throw yourself into someone else’s troubles, yours don’t seem so bad. I’ve even sent some of my writing off for other people to read. YIKIES! That’s scary. Someone once told me this little story/vignette thing.
    
     If you were with a group of say 20 or 30 people and you all took your
     current troubles/insecurities/worries and threw them into a pile in the      
     center of the room, and then each person had chance to look over each
     trouble/insecurity/worry and choose a new one; we would each take our 
     own back.

I think that’s true. For the most part I need to ‘get over myself’ and get on with it, whatever it is. Daddy used to say; there would always be somebody better than me and there would always be somebody worse. Keep looking up and do your best. That’s all Daddy ever asked, and I know that what God asks of us, too.

So…today is a good day. It’s my mother’s birthday. I lost her a lot of years ago. I was way too young to make my way through life without her and yet…



How was your 4th of July? Mine was pretty good. Fireworks at the beach. If you look to the west there ain't nothing between you and Belize, but a whole lot of the Caribbean.

Goon over to the IWSG button on the RIGHT and give it a click. Checkout some of the other posts. I bet you'll find you'll be happy to stick with your own insecurities after all.

Monday, July 2, 2012

100 People - STEPHEN






In keeping with my ‘100 People to Meet Before You Die’ theme, I want to tell you about Stephen today.

Let me start at the beginning. Rachel and her family moved to the island at the end of March. She was having a hard time adjusting and when I asked her about it, she said that she missed her horses and the ability to ride. I can relate, but I had no ideas about how to help.

One Friday afternoon we’re at the beach. I’m out bobbing around neck deep, and this couple are out there also. Their talking and bobbing and not paying much attention. The guy comes up to within about two feet of me with his back turned. I figure he’s going to bump into me and come unglued. In the ocean bumping into something on a sandy beach that’s not a rock is not necessarily a ‘good thing’ (think large sea creature, like shark maybe-they like to bump you to check you out). So I say, hey I’m right behind you. He laughs and thanks me for helping him to avoid a heart attack. Anyway…the three of us get to talking.

The woman, whose name is Fran asks if I live here, how long, the usual ‘hi, how are ya’, conversation. Somewhere in there I tell her that Rachel has just come to the island and is homesick for her horses. Fran says; ‘she has got to meet Stephen’. I call Rachel out into the water to meet Fran and hear about Stephen.

St. Croix is filled with horses. There is a race track here and Cruzans are a betting kind of people. Unfortunately, horses only last so long on the track, then, they are pretty much on their own, here on island. Stephen, it turns out, is a horse rescuer extraordinaire. He takes in equines of all persuasions and in all conditions. He helps them get in shape and then does trail rides for the tourists. Stephen combines two of my favorite things; Horses and the Sea.

On Saturday mornings he runs ’free rides’ for the local kids and just about anybody else who wants to come along. Well Rachel went out the following morning and you guessed it. She got one great big cure for her homesickness. It was a win/win situation because Stephen was astounded to find such an incredible horsewoman willing to help him with the ’kids’ and his herd. Professionally, Rachel is a Vet Tech, so it’s a real big WIN/WIN for everybody.

Stephen is an Irishman with the greatest accent. He’s older than he looks at first, but incredibly young at heart. He was once a Catholic Priest. He left Ireland for the American West to work with horses. Somehow, like the rest of us, he ended up down here in the Caribbean and with all his horse sense; he put his dreams to work. I first saw him out in the ocean with his horses and a group of Cruzan kids – of course, it was a Saturday morning.

I haven’t had my turn out in the sea on horseback yet, but it’s coming. I had to sell my herd to come down here, and I hope the nostalgia won't get to me too badly, but I’m gonna take that risk.

Stephen is most definitely one of those ‘100 People You Want to Meet Before You Die’. It was actually Rachel who told me that. She also asked me how I got so lucky to run into people like Fran who would lead us to people like Stephen. I told her ‘luck has absolutely nothing to do with it’. There are no coincidences.

You can just barely see Stephen in front of the horse at the far right. He has a white straw cowboy hat on.

From here on out I'll be posting my '100 People You Want to Meet Before you Die' pieces on Fridays. Next up IWSG (because the first Wednesday of the month is the 4th of July, we have the option to post for the IWSG on Tuesday or Thursday. Not sure what I'll do. I'll surprise us.

Speaking of 'SURPRISES', I had one today that almost shocked me into next week. YIKES! 

Friday, June 29, 2012

100 People to Meet Before You Die


I intended to get this post up first thing this morning, keeping with a schedule of posting Monday, Wednesday and Friday. Well, that didn’t happen. The old HP is not cooperating, lately neither is life, both keep getting in my way.

Anyway…that’s not what I came here to talk about. As I was visiting the blogs of some of my newest followers about that Versatile Blogger Award, I read some interesting stuff. A few of them had just participated in Awards and Tags where they were asked, ‘who either living or dead they would most like to sit down and have a visit with’. It got me to thinking about that very question. Which lead me to thinking about some of the interesting people I have met in my lifetime. I decided that although when posed with THAT particular question we generally think of the famous or infamous, I have started my personal list of the 100 people you hope to meet before you die.

These are not folks whose names make the nightly news, although they could. They are not the rich and famous, yet in a way they are. They probably are not on the list of others as someone they would like to sit down and have a visit with, but maybe they should be.

Well, ya all know how much I like to tell a story, so that’s what I’m gonna do here on this blog over the next few posts and they we’ll come back and revisit the idea when I meet more interesting people. That’s not to say that everybody isn’t interesting in their own way, but this will be just my personal opinion (move over Mitch Ablom). I’m also gonna send you back in time to revisit some of my older blog posts that cover some of my personal 100 and that’s where I would like to start today.

So click on the link below and read my all time favorite post from the 2012 A to Z Challenge. I hope (you know me and technology).

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

BLOG AWARDS - YIKES





While I was off being sick one of my new followers Lily Tequila awarded me The Versatile Blogger Award. Now most of you know that when it comes to these blog awards I’m a real curmudgeon and I generally don’t pick them up. I’m trying to change my ways and be more gracious – please don’t start awarding me all kinds of awards, because I said that, BUT I promised Lily that I would take this one.

Let me tell you how Wiktonary defines versatile;
 1. capable of doing many things completely
 2. having varied uses of many functions
 3. changeable or inconstant
 4. capable of moving freely in all directions (in biology)
Alright then…

First go check Lily out at   www.lilytequila.blogspot.com  
She has a rather eclectic blog herself that certainly qualifies as versatile.

Here are the rules:
 1. Add award to your blog
 2. Thank the blogger who gave it to you
 3. Mention 7 random things about yourself
 4. List the rules
 5. Award to 15 bloggers
 6. Inform each of those 15 by leaving a comment on their blog.

1. Hopefully that Blog Award has been added, but then you guys know me and the technology it takes to do that.

2. Thank you Lily – may I live up to your expectations.

3. CRINGE

   1.  I’m dyslexic. Probably not the way you think. There are many different kinds of dyslexia. Let’s just say, if you have or ever will read something of mine that sounds like English is my second language, which it is not, that would be my form of dyslexia shining through.

  2.  I’m a licensed Disc Jockey of the radio kind not the dance/party kind. Although I haven’t worked in this field for quite some time the licensing is for life.

  3.  I was a certified white water guide. Certification NOT for life and I haven’t done that in a long time either, but when I did it was exhilarating.

  4.  Although, I will talk to anyone at just about any time all the tests say I’m an INTROVERT. When I read their explanations I have to agree.

  5.  I don’t know my left from my right.

  6.  I believe God, Jesus Christ and even after everything, I believe in love.

  7.  I was a lifeguard and an assistant swim coach.

The rules are listed above.

I would like to award this to my 15 newest followers. I don’t know you well enough to know if you are truly versatile or not, but the 7 random facts will help everyone get to know you a little bit better. I’ll be in touch, via your comment box.

To the rest of you – go on over to my little icons of followers and click on their pictures and checkout what they have to say about themselves.

Monday, June 25, 2012

Last week I was visiting my friend Donna Hole and she was directing people to a site that was holding a poetry contest. The site is 'The Red Angel' hosted by Wendy Lu. In an irrational fit of thinking I should step outside my comfort zone I signed up.I was supposed to post my poem by June 24th (YESTERDAY). I didn't. Not because I'm a loser and a coward, although those words do sometimes apply, but I was not able to link back to Wendy's site. It didn't make sense to me to post and not let you look at the others.


Today Wendy sent me a very nice email,letting me off the hook. I'm going to post my poem anyway and I'll try again to make the link. If it doesn't work maybe you can go there yourself at theredangel.blogspot.com it could be my 'islands Internet connection' that is malfunctioning.


Here's the link, if it will work. www.theredangel.blogspot.com  OK there it is but it's telling me the same thing - that you have to be invited to read this blog and I'm not invited. Maybe you are. Try it.


Anyway...I'm coping out on the poem also. This is one I wrote and posted back in March We were supposed to write about 'birthdays' the roaring twenties' or 'time'. I think I fit into the 'time' category.


Life


Never cheat on your memories
Never live a lie
Never love someone falsely
Don't be afraid to die


Speak for the truth
Protect what is right
Give to the future 
Stand up to the fight


Don't break a confidence
Treat others with care
Give more than you take
Be not afraid to share


Go where you're sent
Do what you must
Find meaning in life
Are you still afraid to trust?


Dance like you're dying
Sing to no one
Step out on the ledge
Let yourself feel the world crying


Don't tell your secrets
Least they break your tender heart
Try to be better


Happy belated birthday Wendy. Hope some others make it over to your blog, even if it won't let me back in.


Interesting side note that today that poem has a whole new meaning for me. Maybe I just needed to hear it again. Thanks for playing along.