Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Insecure Writers Support Group - Who Me?

I'm such a loner that it doesn't occur to me to look for support. Looking or not it seems to come. You know that old saying about "mad dogs and Englishmen, most days I'm both. What I'm trying to say is that so many of you take such good care of me, even though I don't have the good sense to ask for help.

I write goofy things on this blog (Just Another Day in Paradise), of course, it's like my Journal, so what ever is in my head that day shows up here. That's not always good. This would be the reason I started the Far Away Series Blog (actually THIS blog) where I try to sound a little more sane and promote my writing. At either site it feels good to write and write I do. Often I post something and think; 'oh, this will really mean something to so and so', I can't wait to see what they comment. Well, most often so and so never comments, but someone completely off the wall will say the sweetest thing or be touched by something I've said. That's what makes it worthwhile. That's why I write.

I stated in an earlier post how we all live for the applesauce (applause - old theater joke), those comments are the applause, whether good, bad or indifferent ( BTW - there is no such thing as an indifferent comment, if you cared enough to say it, you cared enough). Keep them coming. They keep us alive. They keep us in touch with each other and with our own reality.

I am such a loner that sometimes I don't even recognize that I am outcast. No matter. If I do not know it, I am not it. If you do not tell me that you love me. I will not know it.

I was speaking to a friend from Idaho last night who is still astounded to hear I have written two novels and am working on a third in this month of November. Ahh, the things we assume we know about someone, but forgot to ask. My husband says that I like nothing better than the sound of my own voice. While I do love that sound, I like even better the sound of your voice telling me about mine.

NaNoWri Mo is working out good for me so far. I have to keep reining in the muse,it likes to get ahead of me (Bird by Bird, I keep reminding myself). It's important to tell the whole story, in the right order. I know what's in my head, but you don't. Well, maybe some days even I don't.

When the insecurities get too big, scary, dark, overwhelming, nerve wracking, about to gobble you up, get yourself in some water. That what's I do. I know it sounds crazy, but it works. If you are lucky enough to live at the beach, salt water is my favorite. If you have  a pool nearby, go there. If nothing else take a shower or bath. Let that velvet flow of water wash over you and rinse all the scary stuff away. Your muse will thank you. You will thank you. Try it, you'll like it.

OK, I admit maybe this is the craziest advice you will find in any blog on this support group, but it's practical advice, something everyone can do. You don't need to wrap your head around it, just wrap some water around yourself.

OK,maybe I'm more than a little crazy. Remember I live where the commas don't and thinking is optional.

Thinking is so optional today I posted this on: and later realized that I signed up for the Support Group with this site. Sooooo, same post both sites today. What can I say, I'm blond and cyber-challenged. 


  1. Too far away from the beach up here in Michigan to try your advice. However, I do notice that some of my best ideas come when I'm standing in the shower.

    Then my wife knocks on the door and asks me what's taking so long.

    As long as you keep writing, You'll never be an outcast.

  2. Thanks Ken, it's all about the water. Tell you wife,"it's taking so long, because I am thinking", it works for me,but then for me thinking is a real process.

  3. Showers are a great way for me to recharge and collect my thoughts or gather ideas. Love to get to the ocean or the lake during the summer months.

    Good luck with Nano and happy writing! :)

  4. Love your relaxing blog here. WIsh I was on that beach. I agree %100 on the water. It's the way I get away from it all... even if it's just sitting by the pool.
    AS for NaNo, good luck! I did it last year for the first time and what learned from it is to not put so much pressure on myself. Just do what I can and the rest will fall into place.
    Nice to meet you! (btw my mom's name is Barbara Jean. ) ;)

  5. Can I shower with a friend? That would definitely take my mind off my insecurities!

  6. Thanks guys, I appreciate all comments.Love the beach come on down,things are warm and great in the VI.

    Jamie and Pk - anyone who takes the time to think about it says, yeah they do get inspiration in the shower.

    Ah,Alex I am definitely into distractions. That would be one of my favorites. This would be a new kind of inspiration.

  7. I think the majority of writers have a loner tendancy because writing is such solitary work. We have to force ourselves to get out there. I think that's way groups like this are so great for us.

  8. Most of us are lonely, maybe not always. Writing needs that kind of solitude, divulging into self and best ideas come when I am about to sleep, keeping me awake for hours then. May just try your idea on museless days. :)
    Thanks for visitng mine. Its your blog, you can afford to be crazy...good luck with NaNo.

  9. My muse and I LOVE to take showers together. I too am solitary. I too LOve salt water. You have a lot of soul in your writing. I'm back in Ohio now...both my muse and soul are aching to get back to Akumal, Mexico...and I will soon.

  10. Lynda, Reka and Em - A thousand thank yous for your comments. Makes me feel a little less crazy.

    Telling me that my writing has a 'lot of soul' is maybe the nicest compliment I have received in along time. Insecure or not,I do pour it out there for the internet world to see. Now,I pray for representation and a publisher to see the same and give the rest of the world a chance.

    One more thank you to the thousand.

  11. Hi there,
    I am just popping in from Alex's insecure writers group and it's taking me to get around everybody's blogs and say "hi". I will pop by your blog as often as I can. Nice to "meet" you.
    Eve. :)

  12. Hi Eve,nice to meet you also. Come back often,I'll stop over when I can.

  13. Hey...I'm a fan of goofy! I'm gonna like it here!! :)

  14. Thanks DL, you've come to the right place if you like the slightly unhinged. I do my best.

  15. That is great advice. I agree. I no longer have the beach but I love a nice, warm bath. Sometimes it even inspires new writing ideas.
    Be well and thanks for stopping by.

  16. Thanks Rawknrobyn - I'll be seeing you.

  17. I like practical advice - I wish I had a beach but a hot shower is always good. Thanks for stopping by my blog last week and leaving a bit of encouragement! Sorry I'm late returning the favor!